How to Talk to Kids About Aged Care

Gentle ways to support your child through big changes.

When someone special—like a grandparent—moves into aged care, it can be confusing or even upsetting for children. They may not fully understand what’s happening, and their questions often come when we least expect them.

In this post, we’ll explore simple, age-appropriate ways to explain aged care to kids and help them feel supported, safe, and included in this important family change.

Why Kids Need Gentle, Honest Answers.

Children are naturally curious and sensitive to change. Even if you haven’t said much, they might notice that Grandma’s house is quieter, or that visits have become more structured.

Avoiding the topic can leave them feeling left out or unsure. Instead, speaking gently and honestly helps them:

• Feel safe asking questions

• Understand that aged care is about safety and support

• See aging as a natural part of life

  
  

How to Start the Conversation

Use clear, comforting language suited to their age. You might say:

“Grandma needs extra help now, and aged care is a place where people are there all the time to take care of her.”

"She’s in a new place, but we’re still her family and that won’t change."

“She’s not moving away from us—she’s moving somewhere safe, and we can still visit.”

The key is to keep it honest, loving, and simple.

Family Discussion Questions

Use these questions to encourage open conversation at home:

• What do you think aged care means?

• How do you feel when we visit Grandma?

• What do you miss about how things used to be?

• What do you want to ask her when we see her next?

Sometimes, giving kids the space to draw or write their thoughts helps, too.

Use Storytelling to Support the Conversation

Books like Grandma’s New Home are a wonderful way to help kids explore these big emotions through storytelling. It lets them relate to characters and open up through shared reading time.

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Free Printable: Aged Care Conversation Guide

👉 [Download Now – PDF Family Guide]Includes simple phrases, question starters, and a drawing activity.

Remember: Kids Are Watching

Even if they don’t say much, kids are always observing how we react. By approaching the aged care journey with calmness, honesty, and love, we teach them how to handle change with compassion and strength.